I use to think positive thinking was crazy. How could thinking positively affect my life. There is no way that me simply thinking and hoping for the best would change my life’s outcome in any way. Glass half full? Glass half empty? Who the hell needs a glass anyway? I’ll drink straight from the fountain!

When I was younger it would be easy to say that things weren’t “peachy keen.” Of course they weren’t, I was a kid and things never happen quick enough or the way we always want when we are growing up. My parents moved me to Florida in the middle of my junior year from a small town in New Jersey. I didn’t want to go, I didn’t like it there, I liked my acting class I was leaving behind. I was leaving a great girlfriend behind, my friends, the place I loved and so on… But life happens and it is how we deal with it that matters most. Well, I didn’t deal with it very well at all. I was grumpy and carried around an attitude for awhile. So much so that it affected the new people that I was meeting in FL. I had a girl a few lockers over from me who was also new to town try to strike up a conversation with me and I blew her off. She was gorgeous! Yet my own attitude stood in my way of seeing what was right in front of me. Not to mention making an awful first impression on a pretty hot chic.

Which leads me to negativity. Thinking positively has the same affects in different ways as negativity. When you are walking around feeling down, bad and grumpy. That’s who people meet. That’s the first impression that people get of you. Who wants to be around negative people all the time? When you walk into a store to buy something and two people are standing next to each other. One looks miserable and angry. The other looks happy and full of energy. Aren’t you going to gravitate towards the Happy person? Even if subliminally you don’t want to deal with someone especially when you are trying to get help, who looks like they are in an awful mood. That’s just a possible precursor for how your whole experience is going to be. Or if your out with friends and you don’t  understand why you are single. Don’t you think that being negative might scare off potential matches for you? I know I personally was intimidated by woman who looked angry and mad. It was always much easier to approach someone in a good mood.

In my early 20’s, I used to think that in everywhere I went and everything that I tried to do. That I would climb mountains and work hard and at the top of that mountain there was always someone waiting for me to kick me back down to the bottom again. Then something changed. What!? I’m not quite sure. I think I just got tired of the same ole same ole. I decided to change my frame of mind. I was going to start climbing these mountains with a ladder on my back. When I got to the top I was going to open up that ladder and climb it so that I was that much higher than everyone at the top. Suddenly, EVERYTHING CHANGED!

I started thinking more positive, I started acting more positive and I started being more positive. Suddenly I was being recognized for my hard work. Goals that I had set for myself were starting to be achieved fairly easily. I was happier and best of all. My happiness was starting to have an effect and spread to others. Now when people were meeting me, they were meeting someone that was high energy and happy. Someone that tried to make those around him happier. All the little things that I used to dwell on, now seemed to melt away. I wasn’t letting “the world bring me down.” Not that I was suddenly Mr. Jolly go lucky all the time. Happiness just seemed to come more naturally. I had never been happier and couldn’t believe that I used to be so down.

When you start thinking positive, you start acting positive. You start being positive and people start to see you in a positive light. There is a chain reaction that happens. Not only to you in your life but also to those whose lives you interact with.

If you go into a store and the person behind the register is in a bad mood or down. It’s possible that your interaction with them can put them in a better mood or make them smile. Then you leave and they are in a better mood to the next person in line and that may turn that persons day around. Now you have affected two people. They may in turn affect more people and the cycle continues. All because of you…

Positive thinking can change your life, your world and the world of others. It can put you in a better place, open doors for you and help you accomplish anything. When you are having a bad day, just remember the only that has changed is your prospective.

Thank you so much for reading and remember…

Sunny Days are a State if Mind…

– Jason Carro

Realtor and Resident of Brandywine